So, I’ve been a little MIA for a while. A lot has been going on. So much that I decided to bring this blogging thing back to life and get my thoughts and feelings all down in writing. This is going to be just one of the few ways I try to keep my sanity and relieve some of the crazy amount of stress I have been feeling for…well…probably the last year.
The problem I find myself facing now is exactly where to begin. So I guess I’m just going to type and see what comes out. If you decide to follow along, just know that this may not end up being fluid from post to post as I feel as though I go back and forth, up and down all on a daily basis. Today is going to be all about the stress of mothering these “monsters” of mine who are COMPLETLY DRIVING ME INSANE today.
I take that back…the boys are being good. My daughter, on the other hand makes me was to scream, stomp my feet, rip my hair out, and throw things. Sometimes I think it’s me. Sometimes I think that I just have this picture in my head about how things should be, but my expectations are just too high for everyone. But then I think about it (I do A LOT of thinking) and I really don’t think it is too much to ask for my children to get along, be nice to one another, watch their little attitudes, and follow the rules. I can’t see that is too high of an expectation. Not really. OK so then are my rules too strict? Maybe. OK, probably. It’s the Virgo in me. I want everything to just be perfect even though I know that isn’t possible. So baseline rules…1. No negativity. That means no negative words/thoughts about yourself or others. This goes back to being nice to one another and getting along. But to be more specific, I don’t want any negative talk going on. No calling someone stupid or dumb. Man I hate that more than anything in the world. I want uplifting words and positivity. 2. Keep your hands and other body parts to yourselves. Ok, so I have boys which is where the “other body parts” part of this rule comes into play. My daughter would probably be ok with just the keep your hands to yourself rule. The boys, however, can keep their hands to themselves (once reminded about 50 Gajillion times) but then they will use elbows, knees, feet, and quite possibly heads if I’m not watching them like a hawk. Boys will be boys, right? And that’s all fine and dandy. I understand that. But there is a way to handle situations that does not involves laying your hands (or other body parts) on another person. 3. OH! And this brings me to the consistent WHINING! UGH! It doesn’t stop! It needs to or I swear I will be bald in no time. 4. No lies, always tell the truth. I know this is tough for kids. I remember attempting to lie when I was younger. It’s just something that I think everyone tries to do. Most of the time, the lies come from fear of getting in trouble. What I think they are failing to see is that lying about something actually gets you in more trouble than telling the truth about whatever is going on. 5. This then feeds into the freaking attitudes! They seem to take turns with this one, but my daughter…oh my daughter…her attitude is BAD! I typically get some ‘tude from my one son when he just doesn’t want to do what I’m asking him to do. Mostly it comes at bedtime when he has to put away his kindle or turn off the playstation. My youngest son picks up on it from the others, but at least he apologizes almost immediately and tries to turn things around. My daughter though…I guess she gets it honestly because once she cops and attitude, it doesn’t stop. I don’t even know where this comes from or how to remedy this. My daughter is 9 years old. She is going to only get worse as time goes on and she reaches those teen years. I am SO NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO THAT! At least, not until we can get this part straightened out. If these kids of ours will start talking through problems with us. Start being nicer to one another and treat each other with respect then I don’t see us having a problem as they get older. The key to this will be communication, however, my daughter looks at us like we have 3 heads when we try to have a sit down conversation with her.
Are these too much to ask? Well, I guess I’ve bent your ear long enough. I have to get back to it and get dinner going. Thanks for taking the time. More tomorrow, I’m sure. If you are a parent reading this…you know the stress of parenthood really only changes from day to day, but it never really goes away. Thanks for “listening”.